But they still need to be discussed! I'm pretty sure 'Anonymous 2' isn't the only who's hit similar problems. And if left to fester, these issues can capsize both a person's marriage, and their faith. If you have something you'd like to add (in a tznius, thoughtful way, natch), get in touch.
God-willing, I'll post up my own thoughts on the subject of holy intimacy some time next week.