It’s the nifty ‘Erev Rav’ traits infographic I did last year, to go with my book ‘Unlocking the Secret of the Erev Rav’. As more and more people are starting to crack up (see THIS post, over on spiritualselfhelp.org for why that’s happening right now…) more and more of these traits are going to start poking out all over the place in the Jewish community.
Because God is trying to get us all to clean up our act, to stop living in fantasy land, and to acknowledge once and for all that we’re all down here because we have massive things to fix, and massive things to work on.
That’s why over the last few weeks, more and more people have been clearly acting like crazy, bonkers psychos, and why the ‘masks’ are coming off all over the place.
No-one is immune from this process, and whoever hasn’t started the work of identifying what negative, ‘erev rav’ type character traits they’ve got going on and that they need to work on ASAP is going to be in for an increasingly rough ride now.
Because the time when we could ignore all this stuff and pretend that we’re perfect and it’s all just the other guy’s fault, is well and truly over.
The good news is that if you’ve been doing this work for a while, or at least trying to, things are going to get easier and easier from this point on.
To put it another way, whatever you’ve actually been busy building in your life over the last few years is going to come to the fore now, as the world of truth comes closer and closer.
If you’ve been building humility, generosity of spirit, an understanding heart, awareness of your own flaws, forgiveness and compassion, that’s going to become more and more obvious now.
But, if you’ve been building arrogance, selfish, God-less, greedy, immoral behavior, a massive superiority complex, harsh judgments against other people and / or an inflated opinion of your own self-worth and intellectual prowess - man, are you in trouble!
God is sending a very strong ‘truth’ vibe into the world right now, and just as it’s exposing the ‘hurricane Harveys’ over in Hollywood, it’s also shining its light into the lives of every single one of us, too.
Even if you keep on lying, and keep on trying to brazen things out, it’s not going to work anymore. Increasingly, other people are going to see through the lies. Increasingly, the truth is going to become more and more obvious, despite your best attempts to cover up what’s really going on.
There’s one way, and only one way to come through this process relatively happy and relatively intact:
COME CLEAN NOW!!!
Start doing your one hour a day of hitbodedut, or at least your ten minutes a day, or at least your five minutes a day - something! - and get to grip with what’s really going on inside your soul.
Whatever you don’t acknowledge to yourself, willingly, is going to be exposed for everyone to see anyway, sooner or later. (And judging by what I see going on all around me, it’s going to be much SOONER than later…)
At the end of the day, we’re all broken, we all have stuff we need to acknowledge and fix, so what’s the big deal in admitting to that? All of us have a God-given yetzer hara that we’re struggling to overcome (and often failing miserably at doing that…)
So what’s the big deal, really?
Do you know how good, how relieved, you’ll feel to finally admit all this stuff openly? At least to yourself, at least to God?
When I was having a really, really hard time four years’ ago, I went to Uman and had a revelation about just how rubbish a parent I actually was that I was sobbing my eyes out for most of a day.
It was very hard to admit - to myself! - that I’d treated my kids badly, in a number of ways, because while I was doing it I had so many rationalisations and crazy ideas of why it was 100% ok. But Rabbenu showed me the truth, and while it was temporarily devastating to my ego, when I came home and sincerely apologized to my children for my behavior, it completely transformed my relationship with them for the better.
Now, I have two very chazak teenagers, but amazingly we get on really well most of the time and actually enjoy each other’s company.
That’s a miracle.
So, study this infographic, pick 2-3 'erev rav' traits that seem to be calling out to you, and go talk to God about how they may be manifesting themselves in your life. I know it’s not easy work - anything but!
But it’s so much easier owning up to these things yourself, in the privacy of your talking to God sessions, than having them shoved in your face publicly.
And make no mistake, that's increasingly what’s going to be happening.